{"product_id":"coming-out-of-shame-transforming-gay-and-lesbian-lives-9780385477963","title":"Coming Out of Shame: Transforming Gay and Lesbian Lives","description":"Most gay men and lesbians grow up learning that to be gay is to be sick, to be unnatural, to be a sinner. By adolescence, such negative attitudes have produced and reinforced a single, powerful emotion: shame, the feeling that you're inferior and judged as \"bad,\" for what you are--gay. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e In \u003ci\u003eComing out of Shame\u003c\/i\u003e Gershen Kaufman and Lev Raphael expose the role shame has come to play in gay and lesbian lives. Rarely discussed but vastly important, shame powerfully shapes each individual's development of self-esteem, identity, and intimacy--three areas in which gay men and lesbians have been extremely vulnerable to the crippling effects of shame. Tracing the historical and cultural sources of gay shame, Kaufman and Raphael reveal how gay men and lesbians have internalized shame, resulting in self-loathing and destructive behaviors. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e The hallmark of shame is silence, and by breaking the silence around the dynamics of gay shame, Kaufman and Raphael offer a way to \"come out\" of shame and begin the journey toward wholeness and self-acceptance. Filled with the experiences of those struggling to overcome shame, \u003ci\u003eComing Out of Shame\u003c\/i\u003e includes strategies for: \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e- Storing self-esteem\u003cbr\u003e- Creating a positive gay identity\u003cbr\u003e- Healing scenes of shame\u003cbr\u003e- Developing partnerships in intimacy \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e Self-affirming and inspirational, \u003ci\u003eComing Out of Shame\u003c\/i\u003e guides the transformation of gay shame into gay pride and empowers gay men and lesbians as no other book has done.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=AUTH-14508347\"\u003eGershon Kaufman\u003c\/a\u003e, \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=AUTH-12068137\"\u003eLev Raphael\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Main Street Books\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 12\/01\/1996\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 304\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eBinding Type:\u003c\/b\u003e Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 0.89lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 8.70h x 5.82w x 0.78d\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN13:\u003c\/b\u003e 9780385477963\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN10:\u003c\/b\u003e 0385477961\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eBISAC Categories:\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e- \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=CAT-SOC\"\u003eSocial Science\u003c\/a\u003e | \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=BISAC-SOC012000\"\u003eLGBTQ+ Studies | Gay Studies\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e- \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=CAT-SOC\"\u003eSocial Science\u003c\/a\u003e | \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=BISAC-SOC017000\"\u003eLGBTQ+ Studies | Lesbian Studies\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e- \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=CAT-PSY\"\u003ePsychology\u003c\/a\u003e | \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=BISAC-PSY016000\"\u003eHuman Sexuality (see also Social Science | Human Sexuality)\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eAbout the Author\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eGershon Kaufman, PhD, \u003c\/b\u003eis the author of several works on the subject of shame including, \u003ci\u003eComing Out of Shame: Transforming Gay and Lesbian Lives\u003c\/i\u003e. He is a professor at Michigan State University and lectures on shame and self-esteem. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cb\u003eLev Raphael, PhD, \u003c\/b\u003e is the author of several works including a collection of short stories, \u003ci\u003eDancing on Tisha B'Av. \u003c\/i\u003eHe teaches creative writing, popular literature, and Jewish American literature at Michigan State University.","brand":"Main Street Books","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":48451464134893,"sku":"9780385477963","price":22.4,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0550\/8097\/6621\/files\/img_2e5c1118-209c-4e56-a779-f85cf2196c86.jpg?v=1753703877","url":"https:\/\/sureshotbooks.com\/products\/coming-out-of-shame-transforming-gay-and-lesbian-lives-9780385477963","provider":"SureShot Books Publishing LLC","version":"1.0","type":"link"}