{"product_id":"leaving-home-the-art-of-separating-from-your-difficult-family-9780231134774","title":"Leaving Home: The Art of Separating from Your Difficult Family","description":"\u003cp\u003eWhy, after a childhood of emotional neglect and abuse, would a man move next door to the very parents who caused him pain? And how can a woman emerge from her mother's control in order to form healthy adult relationships? \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eGiving up family attachments that failed to meet our needs as children, David Celani argues, is the hardest psychological task an adult can undertake. Yet the reality is that many adults re-create the most painful aspects of their early relationships with their parents in new relationships with peers and romantic partners, frustrating themselves and discouraging them from leaving their family of origin. \u003ci\u003eLeaving Home\u003c\/i\u003e emphasizes the life-saving benefits of separating from destructive parents and offers a viable program for personal emancipation. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eCelani's program is based on Object-Relations Theory, a branch of psychoanalysis developed by Scottish analyst Ronald Fairbairn. The human personality, Fairbairn argued, is not the result of inherited (and thus immutable) instincts. Rather, the developing child builds internal relational templates that guide his future interactions with others based on the conscious and unconscious memories he internalized from his primary relationship--the one he experienced with his parents. While a child's attachment to parents who were neglectful or even abusive is not uncommon, there is a way out. Articulate, sensitive, and replete with examples from Celani's twenty-six years of clinical practice, this book outlines the practical steps to leaving home.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=AUTH-11149372\"\u003eDavid Celani\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Columbia University Press\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 09\/06\/2011\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 176\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eBinding Type:\u003c\/b\u003e Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 0.50lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 8.20h x 5.50w x 0.60d\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN13:\u003c\/b\u003e 9780231134774\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN10:\u003c\/b\u003e 0231134770\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eBISAC Categories:\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e- \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=CAT-SOC\"\u003eSocial Science\u003c\/a\u003e | \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=BISAC-SOC025000\"\u003eSocial Work\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e- \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=CAT-FAM\"\u003eFamily \u0026amp; Relationships\u003c\/a\u003e | \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=BISAC-FAM033000\"\u003eParenting | Parent \u0026amp; Adult Child\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e- \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=CAT-FAM\"\u003eFamily \u0026amp; Relationships\u003c\/a\u003e | \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=BISAC-FAM046000\"\u003eLife Stages | General\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eAbout the Author\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDavid P. Celani is a licensed psychologist who practiced for more than twenty-five years in Burlington, Vermont. In treatment, he focused on his patients' \"attachment to bad objects,\" which manifested through their inability to separate from parents, friends, or marital partners who demeaned, criticized, or abused them. Celani now presents workshops throughout the United States on Object Relations theory. His books with Columbia University Press include \u003ci\u003eFairbairn's Object Relations Theory in the Clinical Setting\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003eThe Illusion of Love: Why the Battered Woman Returns to Her Abuser\u003c\/i\u003e.\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Columbia University Press","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":44285890560237,"sku":"9780231134774","price":50.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0550\/8097\/6621\/products\/img_ecfa6902-65ca-427a-8d35-39faca216e52.jpg?v=1696958090","url":"https:\/\/sureshotbooks.com\/products\/leaving-home-the-art-of-separating-from-your-difficult-family-9780231134774","provider":"SureShot Books Publishing LLC","version":"1.0","type":"link"}