{"product_id":"rules-of-estrangement-why-adult-children-cut-ties-how-to-heal-the-conflict-9780593136881","title":"Rules of Estrangement: Why Adult Children Cut Ties \u0026 How to Heal the Conflict","description":"\u003cb\u003eA guide for parents whose adult children have cut off contact that reveals the hidden logic of estrangement, explores its cultural causes, and offers practical advice for parents trying to reestablish contact with their adult children.\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cb\u003e\"Finally, here's a hopeful, comprehensive, and compassionate guide to navigating one of the most painful experiences for parents and their adult children alike.\"--Lori Gottlieb, psychotherapist and \u003ci\u003eNew York Times \u003c\/i\u003ebestselling author of \u003ci\u003eMaybe You Should Talk to Someone\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eLabeled a silent epidemic by a growing number of therapists and researchers, estrangement is one of the most disorienting and painful experiences of a parent's life. Popular opinion typically tells a one-sided story of parents who got what they deserved or overly entitled adult children who wrongly blame their parents. However, the reasons for estrangement are far more complex and varied. As a result of rising rates of individualism, an increasing cultural emphasis on happiness, growing economic insecurity, and a historically recent perception that parents are obstacles to personal growth, many parents find themselves forever shut out of the lives of their adult children and grandchildren. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eAs a trusted psychologist whose own daughter cut off contact for several years and eventually reconciled, Dr. Joshua Coleman is uniquely qualified to guide parents in navigating these fraught interactions. He helps to alleviate the ongoing feelings of shame, hurt, guilt, and sorrow that commonly attend these dynamics. By placing estrangement into a cultural context, Dr. Coleman helps parents better understand the mindset of their adult children and teaches them how to implement the strategies for reconciliation and healing that he has seen work in his forty years of practice. \u003ci\u003eRules of Estrangement\u003c\/i\u003e gives parents the language and the emotional tools to engage in meaningful conversation with their child, the framework to cultivate a healthy relationship moving forward, and the ability to move on if reconciliation is no longer possible. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eWhile estrangement is a complex and tender topic, Dr. Coleman's insightful approach is based on empathy and understanding for both the parent and the adult child.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=AUTH-16160854\"\u003eJoshua Coleman\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Harmony\/Rodale\/Convergent\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 09\/03\/2024\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 336\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eBinding Type:\u003c\/b\u003e Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 0.55lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 8.00h x 5.10w x 0.80d\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN13:\u003c\/b\u003e 9780593136881\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN10:\u003c\/b\u003e 0593136888\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eBISAC Categories:\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e- \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=CAT-FAM\"\u003eFamily \u0026amp; Relationships\u003c\/a\u003e | \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=BISAC-FAM033000\"\u003eParenting | Parent \u0026amp; Adult Child\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e- \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=CAT-FAM\"\u003eFamily \u0026amp; Relationships\u003c\/a\u003e | \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=BISAC-FAM013000\"\u003eConflict Resolution\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e- \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=CAT-SEL\"\u003eSelf-Help\u003c\/a\u003e | \u003ca href=\"https:\/\/sureshotbooks-com.myshopify.com\/search?type=product%2Carticle%2Cpage\u0026amp;q=BISAC-SEL016000\"\u003ePersonal Growth | Happiness\u003c\/a\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eAbout the Author\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eJoshua Coleman, PhD\u003c\/b\u003e, is a psychologist in private practice and Senior Fellow with the Council on Contemporary Families. A frequent guest on NPR and \u003ci\u003eToday\u003c\/i\u003e, his advice has also appeared in \u003ci\u003eThe New York Times\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eThe Atlantic\u003c\/i\u003e, the \u003ci\u003eWall Street Journal\u003c\/i\u003e, CNN, Chicago Tribune and other publications. A popular conference speaker, he has given talks to the faculties at Harvard, the Weill Cornell Department of Psychiatry and other academic institutions. Dr. Coleman is co-editor with historian Stephanie Coontz of seven online volumes of \u003ci\u003eUnconventional Wisdom: News You Can Use\u003c\/i\u003e a compendium of noteworthy research on the contemporary family. He is the father of three adult children, has a teenage grandson and lives with his wife in the San Francisco Bay Area. He also writes music for television which has appeared on \u003ci\u003eKeeping Up With the Kardashians\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eLethal Weapon\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eChicago Fire\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eChicago PD\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eLongmire\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eShameless\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eRuPaul's Drag Race\u003c\/i\u003e, and many other shows.\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Harmony\/Rodale\/Convergent","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":48876488425709,"sku":"9780593136881","price":19.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0550\/8097\/6621\/files\/img_d6762a96-16e8-4d6f-af80-770cd7dfc50c.jpg?v=1760541774","url":"https:\/\/sureshotbooks.com\/products\/rules-of-estrangement-why-adult-children-cut-ties-how-to-heal-the-conflict-9780593136881","provider":"SureShot Books Publishing LLC","version":"1.0","type":"link"}