Description
An average couple will have between thirty and fifty significant arguments a year--and yet we're seldom taught very much about why they happen and how they could grow a little less intense. This is a guide to arguments in love: it teaches us why they might occur, what their symptoms are, how we could learn some wiser ways of communicating, and how we would ideally patch up after a fight.
The book looks at twenty of the most common arguments--including ones about sex, money, in-laws, who is cold and who is over-emotional, and the state of the bathroom and the finances. We recognize our own antics but also pick up consoling and wise ideas on how to skirt certain conflicts going forward. The tragedy of every sorry argument is that it is constructed around a horrific mismatch between the message we so badly want to send (I need you to love me, know me, agree with me) and the manner in which we are able to deliver it (with impatient accusations, sulks, put-downs, sarcasm, exaggerated gesticulations, and forceful f*** yous). A bad argument is a failed endeavor to communicate; this is a definitive guide to how we might argue better.
The priority is not so much to avoid points of contention as to learn to handle them in less counterproductively vindictive and more gently strategic ways. We need a lot help in order to acquire the complex art of converting our poisonous arguments into effective and compassionate dialogues.
Author: The School of Life
Publisher: School of Life
Published: 05/05/2020
Pages: 160
Binding Type: Hardcover
Weight: 0.45lbs
Size: 6.20h x 4.50w x 0.80d
ISBN13: 9781912891115
ISBN10: 1912891115
BISAC Categories:
- Family & Relationships | Anger (see also Self-Help | Self Management | Anger Manageme
- Family & Relationships | Marriage & Long Term Relationships
- Psychology | Interpersonal Relations
About the Author
The School of Life is a global organization helping people lead more fulfilled lives. Through our range of books, gifts and stationery we aim to prompt more thoughtful natures and help everyone to find fulfillment. The School of Life is a resource for exploring self-knowledge, relationships, work, socializing, finding calm, and enjoying culture through content, community, and conversation. You can find us online, in stores and in welcoming spaces around the world offering classes, events, and one-to-one therapy sessions.
The School of Life is a rapidly growing global brand, with over 6 million YouTube subscribers, 351,000 Facebook followers, 218,000 Instagram followers and 163,000 Twitter followers.
The School of Life Press brings together the thinking and ideas of the School of Life creative team under the direction of series editor, Alain de Botton. Their books share a coherent, curated message that speaks with one voice: calm, reassuring, and sane.